I looked across the softly lit living room of our Amsterdam apartment, transformed by candles, flowers, and tapestry-covered yoga mats into an elegant, sensual Tantra studio, where our Tantra Afternoon of meditation and sensual exercises was concluding with five blindfolded men on mats being lovingly and erotically touched by five beautiful women. I could never have imagined this scene a few years ago when this way of life was not in our world. But now that Tantra and the fascinating people we have found through Tantra have come into our lives, it felt entirely familiar and comforting.
Our afternoon was filled with six men and five women, a total of eleven beautiful people, together with music, atmosphere, openness, and sharing. It was a feast for all our senses: sight, smell, taste, sound, and most importantly touch.
If you have read this far, then you can already tell this is not going to be a post about weight loss, body issues, or protein shakes. This is a Year Three Post-Sleeve story about how I am now living my life—in large part because of the sleeve! It is an alternative life, I know it is not for everyone, and I don’t expect everyone to agree with my choices. But I love the fact that I now have choices I didn’t have before. I share this on Queen of Crop only to inspire others to be brave enough to “color outside the lines” and do something bold and different once in a while if you believe it will enhance the quality of your life. For those of you who might be concerned, I will tell you up front not to worry; I have not written anything about sex or drugs (or rock-and-roll). I have written very respectfully about how important it is that we keep ourselves physically, mentally, and emotionally fulfilled. For those of you who currently do not have any or enough touch in your lives, this is one path.
I hope you will take the time to read this.
First, the cast of characters:
My husband, H, and me. H and I have been together for 28 years and married for 23, mostly monogamous but always sexually curious. Met and lived in San Francisco and later lived in Hawaii for 10 years. Two-and-a-half years ago (after I had lost over 80 lbs and was at goal weight) we moved to Amsterdam, discovered Tantra, began meeting fascinating, like-minded people, and our lives took off in a new direction.
Eve. Eve is Austrian and over the past two years (in her early 50s) she reinvented herself, something I think we all should do from time to time. Life can be so interesting… if you think your life can’t change, think again! It did for her and it did for us, and you never know what could be around your next corner! After living in a touchless, sexless marriage for many years, Eve began a journey that led her to embrace touch as critical to her own well-being and with a healing power essential to both physical and emotional health. She has dedicated herself to touch and Tantra and to sharing what she has learned with everyone in need of touch to help them heal and stay healthy. She is a close friend and has come to help us as the leader of the afternoon.